We’re here to give you the support you need as a musician, when you need it

What is The Real Human?

A global tribe of musicians

We know that some of the most powerful learning happens by sharing stories and experiences. That’s why we’re building a global network of musicians, to share openly and support you through the tough times.

A practical toolkit

We don’t just talk the talk, we also walk the walk. All of our learning experiences are designed with practical application in mind… To support you in trying out new skills and techniques in your world.

Tailored support

We can provide tailored support in the form of personalised learning journeys, group training and powerful coaching sessions. These are designed to propel your development forward. Just get in contact with us and we can explore what works best for you.

Why is this needed?

We believe that it takes a lot to be a successful musician. Not just the technical skill of playing an instrument, but also the ability to learn, observe, control and express our emotions.

That’s because wonderful though it can be, the music industry exposes us to highs and lows that no other industry would. Whether you perform at weddings, write music, or perform to millions of people, a career in music is tough.

Can music make you sick (a global report surveying musicians) highlighted that 71.1% of all respondents believed they had suffered from panic attacks and/or high levels of anxiety. 68.5% reported they had suffered from depression.

We believe we need to talk about that much more. We need to be open about the challenges that musicians face, and support musicians to develop emotional strength and resilience… The stuff that sits behind the scenes affecting your ability to write / record / perform / sell great music. From building confidence and growing your network, to dealing with rejection, stress, loneliness and conflict.

Our vision is to create a global network and set of useful tools for musicians who struggle with the stressful, physically challenging and (sometimes) mentally debilitating pressures of working in the music industry.

The only way we can achieve this vision is to connect together passionate and talented musicians from around the globe and the only thing missing is your voice.

We can’t wait for you to join us!

The Real Human way

We’re NOT about fluffy hugs, surface level conversations and singing kumbayah (although we have nothing against the song or hugs in general). What we ARE about is authentic conversations, powerful real life stories and practical tools that you can apply straight away to make a big difference. This is about being HUMAN not perfect, and accepting that we all struggle from time to time.

Supporting and connecting musicians as real humans. Embark on a learning journey that will change everything… For the better.

The big ‘hairy scary’ mission

Everyone needs goals that both excite AND terrify them right?!

  • To ensure every musician has the access to support they need for a strong, sustainable career in the music industry.
  • To establish artist learning and development in hearts and minds, as an activity vital to the wellbeing of our musicians.
  • Putting personal development for musicians front and centre, firmly on the map within the music industry. 
Who’s behind it all?

My name’s Kristy Kurowski and I founded The Real Human.

I run this site but it’s not all about me, it’s about us.

Please join us in creating a community that will openly share real life stories, tips and tools to support each other’s growth.

You’ve had a unique musical journey so far, just a glimpse into your life could make a huge difference to someone else. Let’s share with authenticity and purpose. 

Here’s a bit more about how The Real Human came about.

I’ve always loved singing, and have been recording and performing professionally for over 15 years. You can check out my story here. 

In 2017 I decided to take a career break from my day job. One of my goals for that time (among other things) was to write an album. As soon as I left work in March, I went straight to India, then booked other trips around the world and happily procrastinated for months and months. I met with a couple of producers and wrote a lot of lyrics, but even though I know all the people to help me achieve my musical goal, it just sat there, largely untouched and unachieved 7 months later.

So I did some soul searching.

What was it that was stopping me? I know I can sing, and I’ve been writing for the last 20 years so it’s not that I can’t do it… That’s when I realised it wasn’t the technical side of being a musician I struggled with, it was the emotional side. I just wasn’t ready to make the album I dreamed of. I had too many debilitating fears of judgement and failure, I didn’t want to make myself vulnerable, my self-belief was too small, I was too worried about what everyone else would think, I wasn’t ready or willing to step out and show the world what I’m made of. The more I reflected on this, the more examples I uncovered where my emotions had stopped me achieving my musical goals.

This led to an important decision. I needed to work on me, using that baseline of self awareness to really tackle the stuff below the surface that was stopping me achieve my goals.

Alongside my musical journey, I’ve built up a professional career in learning and development over the last 15 years. I’m a Henley Business School qualified performance coach, a CIPD accredited trainer and facilitator and a leadership development consultant specialising in emotional intelligence and behavioural change. I think this is the reason I could recognise what was stopping me, and what I needed to tackle some of these challenges.

I looked around to find support for this specific side of musicianship, and i just couldn’t find it. There was some more generic emotional / behavioural training but nothing that specifically tackled the challenges we encounter as musicians. So I buried my head obsessively into tons of research. I studied groundbreaking reports such as the “can music make you sick” report commissioned by Help Musicians UK and spoke to hundreds of musicians to understand the unique challenges we face. This process led me to a powerful realisation. I’m not alone with these struggles.

I went back to the day job with a ton of travel memories, and a brand new dream. To support musicians (including me) to learn the emotional and behavioural skills required to be a musician. Whatever your goal is, whether getting a record deal, singing for covers bands, songwriting, busking or writing an album (!) emotions and behaviour will play a huge part. So let’s talk about that and use practical tools and techniques to overcome the challenges we face.

With my knowledge of learning and development, coupled with my knowledge of the music world, I’ve started to create a practical musicians toolkit. Designed by a team of professional, experienced musicians, we’ve used these tools to great effect in our own careers. We hope this toolkit will build, develop and grow as our community builds, develops and grows.

This is an ongoing learning journey for me, and I’m nowhere near the finish line. I’m learning every single day and I’d love The Real Human to become a powerful, collaborative experience… Where we can support each other through the tough times and the good.

Just to clarify… The album still isn’t written… Maybe I’ll get there throughout this process.

I’d love to hear from you, if you’d like to chat then please get in touch.